In my day, Tinder was for picking up sticks, not chicks. A #MondayBlogs about modern love.

So. Tomorrow is my birthday and I’m struggling with finding a place on the cake for all the candles. I catch myself almost saying, “You kids get off of my lawn,” and “Is this where you want to be when Jesus comes back?” far too often. And in both cases, I’m thinking those phrases about today’s political climate in the United States.

Sunset and someone's sleeping on the couch

I’m ignoring you.

I’m personally tired of the fighting and want to get back to the love. Turns out, love can be automated! Who knew? Okay, everyone under a certain age did, but still. Swipe, and voila! Someone new to accept or reject. While the saying might be don’t judge a book by its cover, everyone goes by appearances at first. We have to, until we’re able to dig deeper.

Does digital hookups mean we’re finished with random dating and plunging all in with love at first swipe? Maybe, and maybe not. Thing is, if you’re out there living your best life, you’re going to run into interesting people because they’re going to be focused on their best life, as well.

If you’re socially active and know to get out of the house to find datable people, you probably already know to expand your interests to meet ideal people for dating. What do I mean by that? Simple. If you date men, attending female-oriented clubs or organizations won’t be the best way to find guys and vice versa. Of course, there are exceptions. You know there always are. But if you want to meet a straight man at a knitting class, the odds aren’t in your favor. Which is good for the straight guys and honestly? Non-knitting men are missing out. Seriously. If you’re wanting to meet cute, hip, and crafty women, knitting and other fibery arts are the way to go. Don’t want to sign up for a “girly” class just to pick up chicks? That’s cool. Someone else can meet and marry one of your soulmates, no biggie.

The bottom line? Meeting a romantic interest in real life is possible. If you’re rarely finding anyone new and interesting, get out of your comfort zone. Shop in new places, work out in a new park or gym, link up with your friends and go on a day or weekend road trip.

Do you have a story about trying something new and meeting a dating partner? Comment and tell me all about it! Obviously, I love romances and want to read yours. ❤

 

3 thoughts on “In my day, Tinder was for picking up sticks, not chicks. A #MondayBlogs about modern love.

  1. ACountryBoy

    I met my wife in a Yahoo christian chatroom. I wasn’t looking to be more than online friends. After several months of just chatting, she said: “Propose already.” That was 12 years ago. We are still happily married.

    Reply
    1. lauralstapleton Post author

      That’s wonderful! I have a couple of friends who married after meeting in an AOL chatroom, so you know they’ve been together a while. I’m old enough to prefer meeting in person but young enough to realize what a world of possibilities the internet has created. Not all are good, yet not all are bad. Plus, as you’ve found out, some can be pretty darn awesome! Congratulations. 🙂

      Reply
      1. ACountryBoy

        Thank you. Although online dating worked for me, I am still very hesitant to recommend it to anyone. My niece asked me if she should do it and I had to tell her I rather she didn’t. Just too unsafe because sometimes people are not who they say they are online.

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