This post idea was shared with my husband this weekend, so no worries. It’s all good in Lauraland.
Now, on to the blog post. What happens when you’re somewhat happily married, but sick to death of the romance looming ahead on Valentine’s Day? You’ve tried everything, talked to your partner until you’re blue in the face and can’t feel the infatuation. You love the spouse, like them most of the time, but a night out or a romantic anything? Bleh and no.
What to do?
Nothing together, that’s what. I know, I know. I’m supposed to say something about working together, getting a counselor, upping this or increasing that. Which is great if you’re newlyweds or newly anything but if you’re in your fifteenth year as a couple and are feeling more done than a charcoaled steak? You both need a relationship vacation from each other. Not that this is an excuse to play around or get into serious trouble. The goal of a relationship vacation is to remember what being alone feels like. Note: Alone is different from lonely, and I’m going into fixing that problem in the next post.
Right now, I’m recommending giving you two enough space, so you’re able to see the other’s great qualities. The relationship vacation can last anywhere from a few hours to a few days. The duration depends on your own personal needs. Some couples are refreshed in a short while, and others might need months to remember why they enjoyed their partnership.
What’s the best way to take a break? There are a lot of fun ideas, depending on your time and finances. A class in something you’d wanted to learn, a weekend out of town visiting museums, or a week visiting family and friends are all good options. A solo road trip in a luxury vehicle, a week in Tuscany, or a weekend spa treatment would be terrific on the upper financial end, and I vote yes for any of them.
Something else to notice? If you happen to have the urge to share all of this with a new love interest, find a good couples counselor. Wanting a new partner is a symptom of a deeper problem any blog post can fix. There’s a deep unmet need to deal with that requires professional help, or at least more expert than I am.
If you have any other ideas of what do to on a relationship vacation, comment below! I’d love to hear them. My husband and I spend so much time together, we do have to plan time apart just to take a small break. How about you? Is too much time together a problem, or would you like my take on a different issue? Again, comment below and thanks for reading this far.
Next Monday: How memory lapses and procrastination can hinder Frequently Asked Questions being answered as well as alone versus lonely. I don’t even want to go into it right now.
This is soooo true. My fiance (I refer to him as ‘hubby’ usually) drives me nuts. We have culture differences & at times, I think ‘Why are we together?’. Then something happens to where he has to go away (i.e. work, funeral, etc.) and I realize that I miss him. I miss us. I miss being able to gripe to him. (HA…no seriously) Time can’t fix everything; however, I do feel that it can fix a relationship.
I totally understand! My husband and I are as about as culturally similar as two people can be, yet we have times where we’re so not on the same page. He’s business, I’m science. He’s practical, I’m way out there. I’d think even identical twins can drive each other crazy. 😀
So, very true @ twins driving each other crazy. ❤ My husband is from Samoa. I am from America. Samoans are VERY old school with parenting. I am NOT old school with parenting. Such a struggle.
He is religious. I am spiritual. He is hot tempered. I am hot tempered, when the water is boiled.